Live Your Life!

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. -Steve Jobs

This is a pretty great quote, isn't it? I think it's easy to think we have a limitless amount of time. Even when we realize that we don't have an unlimited about of time, we can often live like we do. We forget that the days we are given are a gift that we have. 

There are things that seem to take away the gift of the time that we have. Sometimes we feel as if physical & mental illness have robbed us of what our time could have been. Sometimes it's a relationship that seems to have robbed us of our time. Sometimes it's something beyond anything that we could control. 

One thing that shouldn't rob us is our own decision to live the life of someone else, and to give over the control and power of our lives to another person. Being healthy in life involves, in part, having healthy boundaries. Remember that having boundaries means that we are responsible for our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. When we try to live someone else's life, we are not being responsible for our own "stuff" in life. When we live someone else's life, we lose out on the life that we have. We miss out on our own strengths, gifts, talents, and unique abilities. More often then not, we aren't content or happy either. 

Don't waste your time trying to become a different person. Embrace who you are, your gifts, and your talents, and try to make you be the best person you can be! 

Advice For College Students

The purpose of primary education is the development of your weak characteristics; the purpose of university education, the development of your strong.  ~Nevin Fenneman

An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.  ~Author unknown, commonly attributed to Benjamin Franklin

Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right.  ~Henry Ford

As fall is ushered in every year, hundreds of thousands of students pack up and move back into colleges across the world. Without an intentional focus on what you're doing and what you want out of college, it's easy to waste it. That being said, I thought I'd ask some of my blog readers and twitter followers what advice they would give themselves as a college freshman. Here's what a few of them said:

• Gene @Accountability: "Eat in the cafeteria more, eat delivered pizza less."
• Gene @Accountability: "CALL your mother/grandmother/father. dont' TEXT them....CALL them. we're still old school like that."
• Katy @Singing_Runner: "Join a social organization- whether it be a sorority, intramural team, club, etc. Get out there and get involved!"
• Recover Reflect from RecoveryReflections:  "Who you think you want to be may not be who you really are, but by being yourself you will love who you become."
• Melissa from Hungry, Happy, Healthy: "have focus but also have fun. travel. explore yourself. don't rush. and if you don't know what you want to do? IT'S OK!!!"

And here are a few others I have based off my own life and my years working at a college:

• Create a mission statement for college and post it on your desk. There are days you'll wonder if it's worth all the work, pain, and sacrifice, and it'll be helpful to have something concrete to go back to.
• Create a balance between work and play: Sometimes it's easy to get caught up on all the parties and events that colleges have to party. Don't seclude yourself, but you also don't have to attend everything out there. Remember that you are at college to get an education, and you're paying a lot for it. Don't waste it.
• Learn to say "no": There are so many good opportunities at college: clubs, volunteer work, jobs, friendships, and classes. You can't do it all, and if you don't learn to say no, you'll end up being stressed and burned out. Choose a handful of things that are important, and say no to the rest. 
• Don't Skip Class: It's REALLY tempting to skip class in order to sleep, go to a party, or watch TV. Don't do it. Professors tend to have a lot more grace with you if you have an emergency or need an extension if they see that you're putting forth an effort to show up. 
• Study Abroad! If you have a chance, travel as much as you can! You learn a lot about yourself and the world by doing it!
• Get to Know Yourself: College is the time where you step away from your parents and have control of the choices you make in life! Get to know who you are, and feel confident in that! Develop self worth. Learn what your strengths are and then develop them! Learn how to cope with your weaknesses.
• Increase Health And Wellness: There are a huge amount of jokes out there about the lack of health in college. Remember that every day you have the choice about what healthy decisions you make! Try adding different wellness behaviors to your life!
• Develop Coping Strategies for stress and anxiety: Those stressful moments will come up. If you healthy coping skills in place for those moments so that they don't suck you under. 

Obviously there's a number of other things I could say about starting college, but long lists get overwhelming:) 

Now it's your turn:

What was the most important lesson you learned in college? What's your best piece of advice?

Facing Up To Things In My Life

“Anyone can hide. Facing up to things, working through them, that’s what makes you strong.”

― Sarah Dessen  I love this quote! When we are in the midst of pain, suffering, or just plain awkwardness, it is much easier to turn and run away, or try to deny that it's even happening. When we choose to turn into the pain and darkness, and face it square in the face to deal with it, we become healthier individuals. More often then not, we'll get through the pain and suffering much faster, and we become strong individuals. We can say to ourselves "I survived this once, I can survive it again." When we hide, we allow that thing we are hiding from the control us, and we live in fear. It sucks the energy from us. Ultimately, we are unhealthy, and we don't develop the strength and courage needed to wrestle through the journey of life. Obviously this is much easier said then done. From the experiences that I've had, it is incredibly difficult to face things head on and work through them. It's tempting to run away and hide, and try to force this thing under the rug. It WILL come back at some point. I cannot emphasize how important it is to face things and work through them...and ultimately, we develop strength and courage. Do you find it easier to hide from things or to face them? Is there something in life that you need to face and work through? Do you have any fun plans for the weekend?