tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480043351355588113.post3757189822529602677..comments2023-06-05T10:40:59.902-04:00Comments on Musings Of A Counselor: How To Help A Friend Through A Breakup... {Part 1}Counselor Musingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06842234461571656875noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480043351355588113.post-50232300384362662582012-03-01T09:16:03.498-05:002012-03-01T09:16:03.498-05:00And even if they don't get back together I am ...And even if they don't get back together I am sure they probably loved that person at some point and part of them really doesn't want to hear anything bad about them.<br /><br />I typically am the one to leave a relationship and I still have a very hard time with the breakup. My advice to friends and family, don't assume because your loved one broke up with their spouse or significant other that they feel fine. They still go through a tremendous grieving process as well as the additional worry of whether they did the right thing.<br /><br />Great Post and very helpful, thank you.<br /><br />Peace,<br />MorganMorgan Dragonwillowhttp://awritersuniverse.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480043351355588113.post-14067901126773996772012-02-29T23:14:48.299-05:002012-02-29T23:14:48.299-05:00This advice is wonderful. The first tip - remember...This advice is wonderful. The first tip - remembering that you can't be the one to fix the broken heart - is especially poignant to me. I feel somehow responsible for the happiness of those around me and the closer they are to me, the more desperate I am to ensure their happiness. This is something that I have learned, with age, is not something within my control, but it is nice to have that reminder.NVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17267219296647761938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480043351355588113.post-15128976623413681772012-02-29T22:25:30.292-05:002012-02-29T22:25:30.292-05:00Absolutely! That gets to be a dangerous thing (and...Absolutely! That gets to be a dangerous thing (and something I'm addressing in a future post!)Counselor Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06842234461571656875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480043351355588113.post-54635809357966241052012-02-29T22:22:02.065-05:002012-02-29T22:22:02.065-05:00I would also add to not bad mouth the other person...I would also add to not bad mouth the other person in the relationship. You never know they may get back together and your friend will remember your words.Pepperhttp://pepperscraps.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480043351355588113.post-33250840302566234822012-02-29T07:59:38.539-05:002012-02-29T07:59:38.539-05:00When I was going through a break-up I had friends ...When I was going through a break-up I had friends who just listened and listened and listened and listened, and I am sure they must have gotten so sick of hearing me say the same things over and over and over but they persevered and I will be forever grateful.<br />The one suggestion I would make is to invite them for a meal in your home, preferably supper. Eating alone is the pits and it is so nice to share that time of the day. Despite my thoughtful friends, none thought to do that for me and it would have meant a lot. Now what my husband and I do with a friend going through a breakup is have them for supper, one night a week for many weeks, giving them one night they can circle and say 'I have something to do tonight and someone to do it with. Someone is cooking for me, someone is expecting me, someone will listen to me tonight.'Wendy Lovehttp://depressiongetaway.com/noreply@blogger.com